I am really worried about my brother

i am very concerned about my brother. he has hit a rough patch following the separation of our parents etc

he has been hard work for a while now, he does silly things which end in disaster in most cases hes a typical young lad that way and he has no fear which we all know is not a good thing. anyway he has derailled again recently drinking and behaving irrationally more than likely caused by alcohol. he had been seeing a girl for over a year and we thought this was a god send as he settled a bit started doing normal things. anyway recently due to his behaviour the girlfriend has left him and he appears to be a sorry boy. however i do not blame her as he can be hard work and has a very bad temper. he keeps alot of things bottled up and then theres an explosion usually through drink. he realises too late which is the normal cry and regrets his behaviour or so i am led to believe. he is now quit saddened and says there is no point on living if he is not with her. i am really worried. he is quite spoilt and doesnt really know the hard ships that people face but has a good heart below it all. i dont think and hope he does not mean these things but u can never be sure as you hear alot about young lads commiting suicide because their girlfriens have left them. can anybody give me some hope or advice. in the meantime me and mum try to take one day at a time with work commitments, my grandad being poorly and a few other stressful issues added in for good measure.


Written by: mollie on 7/26/2010 | This worry has been read 81 times.

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mollie is female worrieri am in my twenties and have a younger brother. i work with special needs adults and have always worked in the caring proffession. i live with my Mum since my Dad left approx 4years ago. i am due to get married next year. i am very close to all my family members on my mums side especially my Nan and Grandad.


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    i am very concerned about my brother. he has hit a rough patch following the separation of our parents etc

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  1. Advice provided by a female adviser #1 44 days ago, tigger778 advised:

    seems like your all going through a difficult time!
    a good dose of 'seeing the good things' in his life
    a loving sister and mother for example (as you know him more im sure you can think of others) good personality (when off the alchoal!)
    he will find another girl and if he stops his drinking can have a loving and happy relationship - if he wants 1!!
    you and your mum are doing the only thing you can do - being supportive! maybe give him a slight reality check - you and other people are also suffering! some familys are going through things much worse!! of hes still being suicidal he needs professional help - but you cant force that ipon him (from personal experience!) he needs to want to be helped or it will habe the oppisite effect! let him talk 2 u when he needs to - and dont put up with his bad behaviour when hes been drinking - tell him if he wants help you will help him - unless hes being violent and aggrssive!!
    good luck xx

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  2. Advice provided by a female adviser #2 42 days ago, mollie responded:

    thank you for taking the time to reply to my post. i no i shouldnt have but today while he was out on a driving lesson i had a quick look through his fone. i had to no if i was worrying unnecessarily. i dont think i am. i have told him to give her (his girlfriend) space and let her have some time to herself. however i read the messages he sent to her as well. he was pleading with her to come back promised he would change as she means the world to him and he said it wasnt worth it if she wasnt there... as i suspected she has said that if and when he gets some help she will come back in the next message she writes im not coming back. confusing or what. i have been thinking for some time now that she has been looking for a way out and he has provided her with that opportunity. i found it hard to trust this wee girl at the beginning due to rumours i had heard but as usual i gave people the benefit of the doubt and give them a chance. now im not so sure anymore.dreading wkend.

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  3. Advice provided by a female adviser #3 39 days ago, tigger778 advised:

    he has the answer right there on his phone - he does need to get help! once hes on the road to recovery either she will come back to him - if not then he will be able2 find another girl and fall in love! keep telling him this - u cant force him but he needs reminding he can b happy if he lets himself! he needs to help himself before anybody else can help him!!

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